How do I keep my child safe online? What age should I speak to my child about online safety? How do I keep up with an ever-changing online landscape?
We’ve answered some common questions from parents and care takers about how to help keep children safe online.
While the internet has created fantastic new opportunities for children to learn, play and connect, we know it has created some big risks as well. A 2021 National Statistics report found that nearly a third of children had accepted a friend request from someone they did not know and around 1 in 10 children (11%) aged 13 to 15 years reported receiving a sexual message, while 1 in 100 reported sending a sexual message. So, how can we help keep children safe online?
What types of harms do I need to be aware of as a parent?
There are different types of inappropriate, concerning and illegal content online. From bullying, violent videos and ‘sexting’ to blackmail. We know that those that want to harm our children can use chat rooms, gaming and social media to befriend and groom children.
Children tell us that they can be quickly exposed to content they didn’t search out. Therefore, it’s vital not to blame children and keep calm if you are faced with this as a parent. The responsibility always lies with those that want to harm.
The risk of online harm differs by age and what they are doing online. So, finding age-appropriate ways to educate our children is essential.
What age should you start to talk to your child about online safety?
As soon as your child shows an interest in engaging with technology, it’s time to begin sharing simple online safety strategies with them.
For younger children, it’s best to use technology together and use that time to discuss what to do if something unusual or scary pops up. As they get older, they will need more independence, but keep those conversations about online safety going. Remind them to tell someone if they need help, are worried or something makes them feel uncomfortable.
Children tell us conversations about the internet and online safety should be frequent and not a one-off.
Regular dialogue allows children to lead the conversation and leaves space for them to ask questions and share concerns. For older children, it allows us to explore what they are doing online. These conversations will change as they grow and mature but started early, they get easier.
Which parental control tools would you recommend? What features should they include?
Parental controls are designed to help protect children when they go online. Child net would recommend putting parental controls on the home Wi-Fi and all devices that your children might use. Key features to look out for are content restrictions (to block things like pornography), in-app purchases and time limits.
There are companies who will charge money to provide parental controls, but most Wi-Fi services, devices and apps have parental controls that you can use for free. Internet Matters has step-by-step guides on how to put many of these in place.
Whilst parental controls will reduce the chances of your child seeing something they’re not ready for, inappropriate content can still get through. Supervise younger children and keep talking about their online lives. It is also a good idea to test the parental controls yourself and adapt them as your children get older.
We all know the saying ‘do as I say, not as I do’. Alongside parental controls, one of the best ways we can protect children is to lead by example. This could mean being aware of your own use of technology, asking children’s permission before sharing a picture of them online or talking about your own digital life.
It’s also important to remember that, as adults, we don’t always understand what teenagers or children like to wear, do and watch on tv. This is the same with what children watch online. But you don’t have to like or understand what they watch, just be aware of whether it’s harmful.
Being a good listener is also vital. Having an open relationship makes it easier for them to tell us if they feel uncomfortable online.
As a parent, how can I stay up to date with platforms, such as TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, and their safety and settings. What are the biggest dangers to children online right now?
The dangers that pose the most risk to your child will depend a lot on how they use the internet, what is already being done to keep them safe, and what they already know about using the internet safely and responsibly.
A simple and effective way to hear about the latest online trends or what your child is getting up to is to talk with them about their life online. By maintaining an open dialogue and encouraging them to talk to you about their internet use, parents can help children access the amazing resources and opportunities the internet has to offer whilst keeping them safe.
The risks to each child are different depending on what they are doing online and the ever-changing tactics of those who want to harm. Therefore, it is most effective to equip your child with the skills to identify harmful or uncomfortable situations, seek support and offer them regular opportunities through conversation to talk with you.
Our advice would be:
- Equip yourself with some basic knowledge by using internet sites
- Ask your child to show you what new apps are
- Speak with other parents or older teens to see what they are doing online
- Ask your child’s school how they are educating children and staying up to date.
How can I report someone who has contacted my child with inappropriate content?
Online grooming is where someone befriends a child online and builds up their trust with the intention of exploiting them and causing them harm. For more advice about grooming and the forms it can take, you can visit Child net’s advice page on online grooming.